character traits

Bernice, my colleague, was sharing with me about the different character traits of her 2 sons.

Oliver, the older one, is down to earth and honest, very easy to take care of him cos he always listens to instructions and behaves himself. He's also generous, always share his things and hardly throws tantrums.

Adam, the younger one, is more stubborn, streetwise, & knows how to judge ppl feelings & behave according. Btw, he's only 2 years old, in his child-like way, he already knows how to tug at a person's heartstring and most ppl can't help it but adores him. He's gonna be a lady-killer when he grow up.

It just led us to the discussion about nature Vs nurture. And both of us agreed that we are born with certain characteristics that generally cannot be change.

Which also highlight the point about accepting a person for what he/she are and not trying to change the person to the mould u want, which is a mistake that most ppl make, be it trying to mould yr partner into someone that he/she is not, or trying to make other ppl see yr point of view. If they see it, they will see it, there's no need for any complicated explanations, if they don't see it, it will be super hard for u to convince them, cos they just don't see it.

But I guess when emotions are involved, people just become irrational or over-compromising.

The proverb goes 'A leopard can't change it's spot'

which definition is, "ppl cannot change basic aspect of their character, especially negative ones."

But to be fair, there are ppl who change quite drastically, but this change usually happens after they encounter a life-changing experience. And such life-changing experiences happens only to a rare few.

So in conclusion, it's better to nurture & enhances a person's character based on their nature, then trying to change a person.

Just accept the person for who they are, cos that's the real deal. If you can't, just let the person go. Life will be more fulfilling =)