thoughts

There are things that are hard to let go but i'm learning and learning well, of course with time, everything becomes clearer & easier and it's all about choices.

One always have a choice of how to live one's life.

What is right and what is wrong? I guess it depends on each person personality & conscience level but i will like to think that the line is not so blur... there are basic principles that ppl should know.
Not expecting everyone to be perfect, i know it's impossible. I'm not perfect, i have my own flaws.
But the idea is to have better control of the 'dark' side of the personality so as to create a better self.

C.G Jung asks, "would u rather be whole or good?"

My answer, " be a whole person, embraced both my good & dark side and strive to be a better person"

Human being are so complicated.. why can't everything be more simple & sincere? Then again, when a baby is born, it's full of innocence, it's adults who are complicated.. so no harm recalling the time when we are not that complicated, life's good.

Grow old with you ~ Adam Sandler

Artist(Band):Adam Sandler

Billy Idol (Speaking):] Good afternoon everyone. We're flying at 26,000 feet, movingup to thirty thousand feet, and then we got clear skies all the way to Las Vegas, and right now we're bringing you some in-flight entertainment. One of our first-class passengers would like to sing you a song inspired by one of our coach passengers, and since we let our first-class passengers do pretty much whatever they want, here he is.

Robbie Hart (Singing):

I wanna make you smile whenever you're sad
Carry you around when your arthritis is bad
All I wanna do is grow old with you

I'll get your medicine when your tummy aches

Build you a fire if the furnace breaks
Oh it could be so nice, growing old with you

I'll miss you
Kiss you
Give you my coat when you are cold
Need you, feed you
Even let you hold the remote control

So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed when you've had too much to drink
Oh I could be the man who grows old with you

I wanna grow old with you

p/s: from the movie 'the wedding singer'.. such a sweet song...

会呼吸的痛 ~ 梁静茹

作词：姚若龙　 作曲：宇恒

在东京铁塔　第一次眺望
看灯火模仿　坠落的星光
我终於到达　但却更悲伤
一个人完成　我们的梦想

你总说　时间还很多　你可以等我
以前我不懂得　未必明天　就有以后

想念是会呼吸的痛　
它活在我身上所有角落
哼你爱的歌会痛　
看你的信会痛　
连沈默也痛

遗憾是会呼吸的痛　
它流在血液中来回滚动
后悔不贴心会痛　
恨不懂你会痛　
想见不能见最痛

没看你脸上　张扬过哀伤
那是种多么　寂寞的倔强
你拆了城墙　让我去流浪
在原地等我　把自己捆绑
你没说　你也会软弱　
需要依赖我
我就装不晓得　自由移动　自我地过

我发誓不再说谎了　
多爱你就会抱你多紧的
我的微笑都假了　
灵魂像飘浮著　
你在就好了

我发誓不让你等候　
陪你做想做的无论什么
我越来越像贝壳　怕心被人触碰　
你回来那就好了

能重来那就好了

Tomorrow Never Comes -- By Norma Marek

If I knew it would be the last time that I'd see you fall asleep,I would tuck you in more tightly, and pray the Lord your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time that I'd see you walk out the door,I would give you a hug and kiss, and call you back for just one more.

If I knew it would be the last time I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,I would tape each word and action, and play them back throughout my days.

If I knew it would be the last time, I would spare an extra minute or two,To stop and say "I love you," instead of assuming you know I do. So, just in case tomorrow never comes, and today is all I get, I'd like to say how much I love you, and I hope we never will forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike. And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.

So, if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day that you didn't take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss, and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear, that you love them very much, and you'll always hold them dear.

Take time to say "I'm sorry," "Please forgive me," "thank you" or "it's okay".And if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.

27 Dresses

"Jane is idealistic, romantic and completely selfless - a perennial bridesmaid whose own happy ending is nowhere in sight. But when younger sister Tess captures the heart of Janes boss with whom she is secretly in love - Jane begins to reexamine her always-a-bridesmaid.... lifestyle."

Caught this movie recently and enjoyed it very much... A sweet & heart-warming plot though it might be cliche to some but the witty dialogue and the brillant performances by the actors & their chemistry make this a very fun & relaxing movie to watch. Love is indeed such a wonderful thing =)
Hmm..now i'm at risk of sounding cliche... haha ;p

One Art - Elizabeth Bishop

The art of losing isn't hard to master;
so many things seem filled with the intent
to be lost that their loss is no disaster.

Lose something every day.
Accept the fluster of lost door keys,
the hour badly spent.
The art of losing isn't hard to master.

Then practice losing farther, losing faster;
places, and names, and where it was you meant to travel.
None of these will bring disaster.

I lost my mother's watch. And look! my last, or
next-to-last, of three loved houses went.
The art of losing isn't hard to master.

I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster,
some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent.
I miss them, but it wasn't a disaster.

--Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture I love)
I shan't have lied. It's evident.
The art of losing not too hard to master
though it may look like (Write it!) like disaster.

e.e. cummings - i carry your heart with me

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart)

i am never without it (anywhere i go you go,my dear;
and whatever is done by only me is your doing,my darling)

i fear no fate (for you are my fate,my sweet)

i want no world (for beautiful you are my world,my true)

and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

Here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)

And this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

P/S: 1st hear this poem in the movie 'In her shoes', absoulutely loved it..

Do not stand at my grave and weep ~ Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I did not die.

P/S: came across this poem since i was 13 years old, remembered that i wrote it down in my diary that year becos i agreed with it so much. So here it is again..

Foot & hand wrap ;p

Did some D.I.Y hand & foot wrap today... the picture above is the product of my DIY.. keke..
bought a book recently by a S'porean author Coreenna Ong titled 'Nature's spa'. The idea of using natural ingredient appeals to me, and the ingredients used in the book are quite straight-forward and easy to get and the concoction easy to blend, therefore decided to give it a try and see whether it really works or not..

Ingredients used today:

• 1 fully ripen Avocado ( haha.. my 1st time buying avocado, didn't know how to choose. anyway, ripe avocado is dark green & feels soft)
• 2 tbs of lemon juice
• 1 tbs of olive oil

Step 1 : mash the avocado to smooth puree

Step 2 : add lemon juice & olive oil. Mix well

Apply a thin layer to either yr foot or hand, use cling-wrap to wrap it after application, then wait for 1hr before removing it. wash off with tepid water. Dap dry.

This concoction is supposed to remove roughness & dead skin cells from hands & feet, while supplying skin with nutrients & moisture.

Verdict: tried it on both of my feet 1st, quite useful, the dry skin really did flake off, feet looks whiter & smoother than before =)

tried it on the hands next, abit of a torture cos with both of my hands wrapped up, can't flick my hair, can't scratch my itchy ears... hee.. tahan only 35 mins & i remove it, hands still feels dry, think it works better for my feet, then again, my hands are really dry from all the hand-washing at work, so i guess will need many many more 'therapy' for it to get smoother... haha..

Daily message from Paulo Coelho's Blog ~ Negative desires

A disciple said to his teacher: ‘I have spent a large part of my day thinking things I should not think, desiring things I should not desire, and making plans I should not make.’

The teacher invited his disciple to go for a walk with him in a forest near his house. On the way, he pointed to a plant and asked if the disciple knew what it was.

‘It’s deadly nightshade,’ said the disciple. ‘The leaves can kill you if you eat them.’
‘But they cannot kill you if you merely look at them.

In exactly the same way, negative desires are entirely harmless unless you give in to them.’

For more daily messages go to ~~ http://paulocoelhoblog.com/

The diving bell and the butterfly ~ Jean-Dominique Bauby

Hee... another book review...

In December 1995, Jean-Dorminique Bauby, the 43 year old editor of French Elle, suffered a massive stroke that left him completely and permanently paralyzed, a victim of "locked in syndrome." Once known for his gregariousness and wit, Bauby now finds himself imprisoned in an inert body, able to communicate only by blinking his left eye. The miracle is that in doing so he was able to compose this stunningly eloquent memoir.

P/S: I'm simply amazed by how strong a human spirit can be, that in such condition, he can still composed a memoir.

It was a very tedious effort becos someone have to read out the alphabets one by one and he uses his left eye to convey which letter or word he wanted to compose! Amazing!

This memoir is now being made into a movie and now showing at GV cinema.

Hmm.. i should get my Advance medical directive sign soon.

If this situation happens to me, don't think i will be able to be this strong, was chatting with my brother that day, if i got a stroke one day that rendered me bed-bound & speechless --- Stop feeding me... but not sure whether or not he will get into trouble with the law. If i leave it as a clause in my will, will it be helpful?

Book review

Decided to start a blog about the stuff that i like, the books that touches me, anything that i wish to jot down so that i will have some memories of the things that happens to me cos i realised that i'm forgetting things too quickly.. ( might be a blessing sometimes..lolz)

Read quite a few good books recently that triggers some deep reflections on my part.
One of them is written by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross & David Kessler, titled, "Life lessons ~ How our Mortality can Teach us about Life and Living."

Below is the summary of the book,

'Is this really how i want to live my life?' Each of us at some point asks that question. The tragedy is not that life is short, but that we often see only in hindsight what really matters.

If you only had a few days left, how would you live your life differently? In this life-changing book, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler guide us through the lessons we need to learn so that we can live life to its fullest in every moment. They have been to the edge of life hundreds of times with those who have died and those who have survived. Both experts on death and dying, they invite us to share these stories and guide us through the practical and spiritual lessons of everyday existence.


This book came at the right moment for me, answered alot of questions that i have been asking myself for years =)

p/s: If anyone is interested in this book, can be found in the library or kinokuniya bookstore.